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Thanks for sharing this Richard, it takes a lot of honesty and vulnerabilitty to talk about the tradeoffs that come with building and providing for family (inside and outside the home). I really appreciate how you framed that tension between giving your all at work and still being present at home, something so many business owners can relate to but don't always talk about so openly.
Your post actually made me think about my partner, who isn't a business owner (yet) but is an electrician apprentice. He has some really tough days — whether it’s dealing with a journeyman who’s hard on him or crawling in attics and under houses in extreme heat and humidity. It’s hard to come back home after that and instantly flip back into your usual self.
One rule he set for himself is to leave any anger or frustration outside the door before he comes in. Not because he wants to bottle things up, but because he doesn’t want those emotions spilling onto someone else. And at the same time, he still makes space to talk things through and process them (which I think is such an important distinction) + I'm a great listener (I an always up-to-date on electrician drama). This is just one way he improves on his work/life balance. : )
- RichardM16 days agoContributor 4
Thanks for the reply julie
I used to have a hard time speaking about these topics. It wasn't until I was in my 40s that I started understanding what 'the whole picture' really meant.
julie wrote:
he still makes space to talk things through and process them
Yes, this is very important to do. It's hard to decompress when you get home if nobody is willing to listen. I was of the opinion that I couldn't bring anything negative into the home from my work. But having an amazing partner who is willing to listen makes the transition back into family life effortless.
- julie16 days agoJobber Community Team
Most definitely! Being understanding and becoming an effective communicator comes with practice, slowly and surely.